1. Pay Attention!

For fuck’s sake, pay attention! Can you not chew gum and walk at the same time, too? If you hear her breathing getting heavier, faster, or if she starts to giggle, or starts to squirm or twitch – keep doing what ever it is you are doing!

2. Lesbians know how to use their fingers

If you’re going to use your fingers, for fuck’s sake, don’t make her feel like she is getting molested. Think of your fingers as your penis, or maybe not… Bottom line, don’t just “finger her, dude” – caress her vagina, slip your fingers in and out, don’t shove them in and out. Spend some time in there, gently massage the insides and get a little faster as you see her get worked up – PAY ATTENTION to her reaction and finger it out.

3. Fucking starts in the morning

As much as you don’t want to hear this, it’s a must if you want to have those spontaneous quickies and weekends filled with sex. What this means, essentially, is do everything you see in the chic flicks she watches, and you loathe. You’re going to have to do things like, kiss her on her forhead before you get out of bed, take out the trash before she has to ask, pour her a glass of wine when getting yourself a beer - you get the fucking point. If you make efforts like these, your masturbating days are over. She will be so fucking happy, your dick will be her joystick.

4. Don’t use her tits as handles!

Really? I mean come on. You spend all day staring at her breasts like they’re made out of gold then you’re going to treat them like your bike handles when you actually get the privilege to touch them? Either learn to ride with no hands or learn how to handle her breasts. Caress them, tease them, pinch her nipples, spank them even – just don’t grab on for dear life as if it’s your first rodeo. Not sexy!

5. Stop being selfish – her first you last!

This is the biggest complaint I hear, and I have yet to understand it. It’s a no brainer, really. She WILL notice if you are putting in effort to be there to actually have sex with her, not yourself. In turn, she will put in even more effort, and in turn you will then put in more effort, then she will, then you will until it becomes one big explosion of fuck.

6. Do more than one thing at a time

This is NOT that hard. Think: chewing gum and walking at the same time… Explore her body with your hands while your penis is having a date with her vagina. Firmly grab her hips and give a little squeeze, bring her leg up to your face so you can kiss her long legs and caress them, something, anything just as long as it’s more than just sticking it in and out while you have two free hands! I mean, are you gay? Why would you not take advantage of being inside her and being able to touch her body at the same time?

7. Hygiene

If you think this doesn’t matter, think again. I can’t tell you how many times I have been attacked because I “smelled good”, or right after I got out of the shower because I was “so clean”. You want to get laid? Manscape, man! Take a fucking shower! How many times does the old saying have to be said – it’s the little things… that get you laid.

8. Find her clitoris and show it some love

It’s easy to find and easy to please, so why is this an issue I hear about so often…? Well, if, and when you do find it – be gentle. Start out by lightly massaging it, add a little pressure, move your fingers faster. If you do it just right, you’ll actually find that it feels so good she can barely stand it. And by that time, she’ll just want you to fuck her hard and fast – so the two minutes you do last will be perfect.

9. Be more adventurous

This does not include sticking it in her ass - adventurous also means creative. PAY ATTENTION to whether she has mentioned wanting to try something new. Surprise her by making a sly move while at dinner. Get the OhMiBod app and tickle her while talking and sipping on drinks. Whatever it is, just be adventurous – trust me, she’ll appreciate it – and she’ll prove it!

10. Lick it like a lollipop and lap it like a dog

Nope, it’s not one or the other – it’s both! Start out licking it like a lollipop: take nice long licks, twirl your tongue on her clit, suck her clit, give it a little nibble, hold it with your teeth while your tongue gives it a few more lickings. As she’s close to climaxing and pushing your head away from so much pleasure, start lapping her clitoris and entire vagina like a thirsty dog that can’t get enough water - that look in her eyes that you’ve never seen before, is a combination of “Who the fuck are you?” “You must be god sent” and “I am going to fuck you to the point of no return.”

So, if you want to keep those calluses on your hands, keep lying to yourself about why no woman will sleep with you more than once, and keep blaming her instead of fixing the real problem – you – then keep doing what you’re doing. If you want to not only get laid, but get your world FUCKED, follow the steps above. You will be amazed on how many women your one woman can be. She will fuck you like your whore, have sex with you like your mistress, and make love to you like your wife depending on how well you have been PAYING ATTENTION.

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